So, if you are confused by your man’s behavior, I can help you get your Y-chromosome facts straight. This article is about to take you inside the male mind – and is going to help you make sense of it (hopefully).
Over the years, women (and even some men) have made many attempts in trying to understand men better. In our quest to understand men, we discovered that most men tend to have a vague outline of an idea on what they really want or need from their women. They always seem to say on thing, but end up doing something else. These mixed messages that they always ended up sending us, left us feeling bewildered and confused.
Perhaps if we all had to start thinking like men, then it would probably take the male-female relationship to a whole new level. So, the next time your guy does something that’s really annoying, put yourself in his shoes.
Most women have the tendency to lament and crib about their problems, just because they want these problems to be acknowledged, while men on the other hand, tend to crib about problems because they are looking for solutions to these problems. Obviously, there are going to be many differences between a man and a woman’s point of view and how they will react when put under pressure.
Rarely do men actually think about writing us women those sweet little love letters, and rarely do they even think of sending us cards and flowers. So, when you end up getting frustrated with your guy because of his lack of romanticism, it would be good to remember that men don’t always think on these lines. They might worry about their sex lives and why it’s not all the great, but when it comes to romance, men seem to lack the basic gene. The reason however, for their lack of interest and lack of romanticism is because their idea of being ‘romantic’ is very different from that of ours.
So, if you feel that this is troubling you, then share with your man that you would love to have flowers sent to your office. Do not worry if he doesn’t respond immediately, he probably has a lot on his mind already. So, does this lack of interest in romance mean that men have less character than us women? Absolutely not!
Does your guy seem really disinterested when you are talking about something that is very important to you? Do you at times feel that you are having problems with your relationship and you really want to talk about it? Does your guy seem less excited, even annoyed, when you insist on talking about this issue immediately? More often than not, men prefer to keep their problems to themselves and prefer to think about them instead of discuss them. This however does not mean that your man is incapable of talking or communicating with you, it just means that he would rather understand the situation, analyze it and then maybe talk about it. Most of the times, a man would probably need to come up with something fixed and concrete before he can say anything or try to come up with a solution to the problem, instead of beating around the bush and discussing a number of different options.
Women tend to think about their problems aloud and prefer to talk or discuss every aspect of the issue, but this does not mean that men have to be the same. When it comes to communication, it would do you good to give your man more space. When he is ready to talk to you, then allow him to approach you. Keep telling yourself that the two of you are completely different creatures, and when it comes to communicating, men and women will always have different styles.
Don’t be upset when you don’t get the exact same response that you would desire or expect. Men are tough creatures to figure out. So, the next time you are upset with your man, try to think about the issue in the way that he probably would. Simply to acknowledge the fact that men do think in different ways from us would definitely lift a heavy burden off your shoulders. So, the next time he acts in a weird manner, don’t sweat. This does not mean that he doesn’t care about you. He probably just thinks differently than the way that you do.
More Relationship Advice on Understanding Men
Right from childhood, men are taught to be extremely disconnected from their innermost feelings. Women are brought up to expect their men to be strong, dominating and in control. According to surveys, most people think that infidelity is only the third cause for most divorces, after incompatibility and communications problems. Men however, very rarely find the comfort that they are looking for through affairs. So, it would be cruel to say that about them.
Those men who have tried out relationship counseling say that extramarital affairs only helps to compound their feelings of despair, guilt and isolation, which leads to depression. Those men who are starved of affection and intimacy at home will occasionally develop sex addictions. Like a bulimic, a cheater is just trying to fill an empty emotional void.
Women however are more fortunate as they can easily satisfy their emotional feelings by connecting with their friends, their children. But, in our man-is-the-pillar society, sex is probably the only way in which men can go about achieving emotional closeness. Therefore, even if a man doesn’t really take his pants off, most women would consider emotional cheating as being just as bad, or even worse than physical cheating.
When a man is being unfaithful, he might not think of the consequences that will follow or how his partner may feel – because he is caught in the heat of the moment. Yes, it is the level of respect and the commitment levels that you have and that your partner has that will determine whether or not your relationship will work. Through respect, open communication and caring, you will be able to understand your man better and the chances of you relationship working out will be stronger.
